We all know there will be fights and conflicts of interest sometimes. That’s a given. Don’t let negative emotions fester. Bottling up emotions means that it will build up and eventually explode in an extremely unhealthy and detrimental manner. Rather, bring it up – respectfully. As soon as you have calmed down from the episode […]
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Wondering, guessing and assuming someone’s thoughts and intentions are all speculating. – Speculating does little to find out your spouse’s actual thoughts and intentions. Speculations generate feelings of powerlessness. And they invite misunderstandings. — – Assuming: “I’m sure you’ll never get around to it.” – Guessing: “I bet you want to go with your friends
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Miscommunications are bound to happen. And, both of you are unique individuals with your own unique way of seeing the world. You will have differences in ideas of how to deal in certain situations. That means there will be conflicts. Happy couples are OK with conflicts. They feel safe to share their perspectives. They discuss
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Thoughts and feelings are often used interchangeably. There really is a difference – a big difference. ONLY USE THE WORDS ‘I FEEL/ I AM ‘ WHEN FOLLOWED BY A TRUE FEELING, NOT A THOUGHT/ OPINION. Feelings “I feel/ I am” followed by [a feeling] “I feel [sad, mad, glad, scared]” “I am [sad, mad, glad,
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Some words to avoid: “I don’t care.” You may think that this statement gives an easy-going impression and avoids rocking the boat; in reality it gives an unclear message and causes confusion. Rather say, “I am good either way.” “I don’t have a preference.”
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