A central feature of marriage is the ability and willingness to give and share. Some people find that difficult, and focus mostly on their own needs and wishes. Dr Elinor Greenberg sets out the main characteristics of narcissism, and how you can identify narcissistic tendencies.
Recognizing narcissistic tendencies. Read More »
Controlling behavior is when one person expects, compels, or requires others to cater to their own needs — even at others’ expense. Generally, people are on their best behavior during dating. So it is especially important to really tune in and pay attention to the following questions during the dating. There are RED FLAGS of controlling tendencies.
Recognizing controlling tendencies. Read More »
Don’t marry someone with the hope that they will change. As much as you may wish it, people don’t easily change their attitudes and core beliefs. Rather, think: Would you marry the person as they are? If the answer is yes – but you would rather they change this thing about themselves – then you have nothing to lose. If the answer is no, then this is not a compatible match for you.
Accept that people don’t fundamentally change. Read More »
Productive feelings move you closer to outcomes you want. But productive feelings don’t always feel pleasant. And sometimes unproductive feelings feel quite good. It’s not about positive (or negative) feelings, It’s about productive (and unproductive) feelings. Endless hours on your phone may feel pleasant, but that is not productive. Being out of your comfort zone
Productive feelings, not positive feelings. Read More »
