A person does not have to be perfect to date, but a person does need to be in a fit mental state. Developing and maintaining a relationship requires the person to be able to focus on and prioritize the relationship and the person they seek to be in a relationship with. Someone struggling with any […]
Preconditions for dating. Read More »
Even if we consider ourselves good-looking and are proud of our appearance, we feel cheapened when other people are overly focused on our external appearance instead of our inner worth. It is worth remembering that “men will be men,” and so long as it is not extreme it is not necessarily a problem, depending on
“I feel all he is interested in are my looks”. Read More »
It is about the math. As soon as a person is looking for a quality or feature that is above-average – in other words, less common – there are fewer such people in the population. If a person seeks several qualities at a level that is above average for that particular feature, the number of
Why can’t I find someone with all the qualities I am looking for? Read More »
If you need to disclose sensitive information, it is important that you handle the process in a way that will cause the least damage. While each situation is clearly different, there are some common principles. It is advisable to give off a realistic portrayal of life from the outset and weave into that the factors
Most people are looking for a special resonance between themselves and the person they choose to marry. They want to have that intangible sense that they have found “their other half.” What this is really about is a desire to reach a level of mutual acceptance and appreciation that is both thrilling and liberating. Most
I am looking for my soulmate; how do I know when I have found it? Read More »
Someone may be “stuck”. While they are dating someone they really like and get along with excellently, they are struggling with the idea of proposing because some things bother them. It may seem obvious that it is out of the question to commit to marrying someone you still have doubts about. Would that not lead
I feel very strongly drawn to my date, but some things bother me. Read More »
This bothers her and plants seeds of doubt in her mind about whether she made the right choice. Being confronted by jarring feelings of self-doubt can be quite debilitating and painful. This can happen to anyone, as there will always be someone superior in one or more dimensions to the person we are dating. The
“I like the person I’m dating, but I find other people much prettier/smarter.” Read More »
There are two types of anger issues – and they are worlds apart. There are feisty people who are prone to raise their voices, get strongly animated, and occasionally get carried away. They may use overly forceful language to make their point, being unnecessarily argumentative, and refusing to back down from an argument. Many people
The person I am dating has an anger issue, what should I do? Read More »
Some people experience rejection not merely as a (sometimes bitter) disappointment, but a very personal attack on their value as a human being. Rejection often feels worse than it usually is. Knowing this could help keep things in perspective. Recognize that most people experience rejection. Knowing that does not make it less painful, but it
When dating does not work out, I take rejection very personally. Read More »
If nothing else, dating is about honesty. There are several important reasons for this. The main element of dating is “mutual self-disclosure,” whereby each party progressively shares and reveals more about themselves. Dating is also about being yourself and letting go, rather than anxiously screening everything you say. Marriage is based on trust, and hiding
Do I have to tell my date problematic things I have done in the past? Read More »
