January 10, 2022

Does family really matter when it comes to a shidduch?

Put very simply, family matters a lot, but not as much as some other things. It is true that family is an important aspect of marriage and life. But ultimately, you are contemplating marrying an individual. Of course, the influence of the person’s family is a factor. Nonetheless, more important is the person’s own journey

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Be wary of judging the shidduch by how much you enjoy the date.

Many people don’t – and won’t – enjoy dating. In theory, dating is this exhilarating experience. We get to meet a lovely person and spend a really nice evening getting to know them. What’s not to like? This, sadly, is not how it feels for many people. Perhaps they find opening up to a new

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Working with a Shadchan to find shidduch.

Working well with a shadchan is key to success. It begins with establishing a good working relationship, including finding one that suits you, and learning how they operate. The partnership’s success will be greatly enhanced if you provide the shadchan with the tools to help you, especially clear information about yourself and what you are

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Best not to date if you unable to give it the time and focus it deserves.

For a date to go well, you need to be present and focused. If you are over-tired, exhausted, or distracted, the dating can fall flat. If possible, it is best to begin dating when you are willing and able to apply the necessary time, energy, and clear mind to the project. It is not advisable

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Don’t avoid uncomfortable topics; that’s what dating is for.

Some people see dating as looking to see if there is full agreement between the parties. The minute they hit upon some area of disagreement, they feel disappointed. Instead of raising their concern with their dating partner, they express their frustration to their parents, shadchan, coach, etc. Unless the gap is felt to be truly

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If you are getting ‘no’ often.

Getting married is an important goal not just for you but, most likely, also for the person you are dating. If you are continually getting rejections, it is from another person who also is looking for a relationship. If you have difficulties when dating one or two people, there is no reason to think much

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