Forgiveness can’t always make the situation better – especially if the offense continues. Yes, you can release the previous pain and hurt. But then it happens again. If you have done some true self-introspection to determine that you are not being supersensitive, or the act is obviously egregious, then it is worthwhile to set up […]
Forgiveness may not be enough. Sometimes, you need boundaries Read More »
Hashem has goodness in store for everyone. Everyone. Often, it is just on the other side of the door. To open that door, you just have to turn the handle. You may have to give it a little nudge or push. But the door to your goodness and opportunity is already open. Sometimes, there are
The doors to goodness are unlocked; but you’ll never know until you try to open them Read More »
Everyone makes mistakes. It is the way we were created. What happens after the mistake? We might feel pain from the mistake we made (“Stupid, how did I do that!”). Fear of facing that pain again can deters us from making that mistake in the future. Maybe. When we do this, we are diminishing ourselves,
A mistake is an action (a ‘take’) that missed Read More »
Teshuva is not about feeling ashamed about the sins you did. It is about committing to your relationship with Hashem, and doing what it takes to enhance the relationship. Similarly, it is not about wanting to be a better spouse. It is about focusing on your spouse and doing right by them. – Rabbi Manis
True repentance is about focusing on your relationship Read More »
If you have wronged someone, it is incumbent on you to help them release themselves of the pain they may be feeling. A lot of it can come from your sincere apology. The apology is for them, not for you. Work from a place of true humility and remorse. It will come across in your
How to apologize so the other is more inclined to forgive Read More »
Adai Ad wishes you much joy and nachas from all your relationships.
May all your relationships bring you much joy and nachas Read More »
When you are able to see things from another person’s perspective, then you are able to ask for forgiveness and to grant forgiveness. – Rabbi YY Jacobsonhttps://www.youtube.com/embed/gGxPpoLsvrk?start=786…–When someone does something that causes you pain, it often helps to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Try to see the situation from their perspective. Instead of
Seeing the other’s perspective can help with forgiveness Read More »
When you are married for a while, you have the advantage of common experiences, you know what makes each other tick. You have a sense of what is their objective in this interaction. What it is they really need from you in this moment. (Yeah, sometimes, you’ll get it wrong, but if you were paying
You know what makes each other tick. Use that to make life better for your spouse. Read More »
Spills happen. And once they have happened, they have already happened. Yes, there’s a mess and maybe even a broken glass. But there’s no use crying or screaming about the spilled milk (or honey). You can just clean it up and move on. Or even laugh. Cuz when we make mistakes, adding insult or grief
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During the Peaceful & Joyous Yom Tov conference call, Velvel & Estie Lipskier shared the importance of having discussions before Yom Tov to prepare and plan for all aspects of Yom Tov so things run smoothly. Yom Tov is not one of those things that you can ‘just play it by ear’. Inspired by that
Together plan for a peaceful and joyous Yom Tov Read More »
