Sharing/ Disclosing about your ‘stuff’ There may be something that you may have heard about the person you are dating and they may not (yet) have brought it up. If you have a question you should bring it up. For starters, the information may be important to know. There may be things that you are […]
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Sharing/ Disclosing about your ‘stuff’ Everyone has ‘stuff’. True, some is more heavy than others. There is an adage, “You’re only as sick as your secrets.” Revealing information that may ruin a shidduch is understandably very difficult, but keeping it secret creates a constant anxiety and a barrier to mutual trust and sincere communication. Marriages have
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Undoubtedly, we all have challenges in our lives. But, at least on the surface, some people’s challenges are more profound, and – in the arena of shidduchim – too often become a basis for wonderful people not to be given the opportunity as a potential shiduch. True, some people’s lives seem complicated, as they carry
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Q: “I am dating Leah and she seems like a great girl. I heard some rumors about her family though she hasn’t said anything. Should I just assume that what I heard is just gossip from angry neighbors? I do want to get to the bottom of it. If I ask outright, Leah will be
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For men (click here for women’s version) Her values Her values should be compatible with yours. They do not have to be identical. How does she envision her family life to be? her role? her husband’s role? What drives her? What does she see as her purpose in life? How does her Yiddishkeit affect who she is?
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Why you should you consider dating someone who has a medical condition.
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A young lady writes a letter to her parents: I know you want to see me settled in a happy marriage, and that is why you are working so diligently for a shiduch for me. I love you, I truly appreciate your intent, but the way you are going about it isn’t working for me.
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As you work through a list of qualities that you absolutely must have in a spouse, it is also important to state to yourself WHY that is so crucial to you for a successful marriage.
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When parents and children are ‘not on the same page about shiduchim’, it causes much frustration, waste of time and efforts, and overall disillusionment with the shidduch system. This article shares some ways an adult child might discuss this with their parents. Respect and appreciation for your parents are crucial for such conversations to be effective.
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When meeting someone for shiduchim purposes, it is important to know what you ought to know about each other and the relationship before you commit to marriage and a life time together.
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