We all have those times that something we did or said didn’t come out quite as we intended. Or the words or actions triggered a bad memory in the other.
You wouldn’t want your spouse to resent the statement or action. Or feel hurt by it. You would much rather know about it so you can do it better in the future. Right?
Give that gift to your spouse. Let them know if there is something bothering you about something they said or did – or didn’t say or didn’t do. –>”I think that didn’t come out as you intended. Can you try again?”
–>”When you said that, I felt like a little kid who isn’t trusted.”
–>”In the future, I’d much prefer that you say that in a different way. This feels more comfortable to me.” [share how you prefer to hear it]