Highlight the places where your interests overlap with your spouse

When people see areas where their lives intersects with someone else, they feel more connected. This is like saying “I’m like you.” It makes people feel understood and gives them a sense of belonging.

In marriage, we will bring up and focus on areas where we have differences more often rather than our similarities. Make a point to intentionally do or speak about something that highlights your similarities.

• Go to a restaurant that you both love.
• Focus on a shared hobby.
• Read up on a topic that you both enjoy and have a good convo around that.
• Dream together about upcoming vacation. Even if it is just a dream.

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