It doesn’t always need to be done “right now!”

Unless it really is time-sensitive, most things don’t really need to be done the minute you ask for it. Dishes can stay in the sink for a few hours, the mail can be brought in later.

Your spouse does want to do for you and the family. They just might want to do it later.

No one likes to be commanded; that only builds resentment. They prefer to be asked and then allowed to decide if and when to do it. Most will do it – of their own will – if they have some say in when and how. Then they will feel that love that comes from giving and doing for others. (It is worthwhile to give a time frame in which to do it “Please wash the dishes before the guests come at 9:00”. S/he will feel more willing to do it.)

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