It is ok to feel anger. It is not ok to act out in anger.

Anger is in itself neither good nor bad—it’s what you do with it that matters.

Anger is best viewed as a tool that helps us read and respond to upsetting situations. For example, we can get angered by injustice to the less fortunate and use those feelings to create initiatives to help.

Unfortunately, too many people act out in the anger. But, you can manage those feelings of anger. Let other people know explicitly that you are experiencing intense emotions and because of this, it is more difficult than usual for you to communicate clearly. Apologize in advance, not for your emotions or your actions but for the potential lack of clarity in how you convey what you’re about to say. “I am feeling very angry right now, and I cannot think clearly and what I say may come out wrong. I’m sorry.”

Keep checking in with yourself by asking, “Is my anger helping or hurting the situation?”

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