Which of these apologies sound better to you?
Note: Some of these are obviously better than others. Others may be your personal preference.
- You didn’t deserve that. I’m sorry.
- You started this, but I’ll apologize anyway.
- There is nothing that I can do to take away the past, so please just forget and forgive.
- Please forgive me for saying that. I know it was insensitive.
- Let’s let bygones be bygones.
- I am sorry if you were offended.
- I should be excused here because I didn’t mean it to come out that way.
- If you hadn’t done that, then I would not have responded in the way that I did.
- Oops. Can I get a do-over?
- I am responsible for that and I’m sorry.
- I will do the work to fix that mistake.
- I don’t want to ever do that to you again. I’m open to ideas you have on how I might change my behavior.
- I’ve put you in a difficult situation. I’m sorry.
- This mistake is part of a pattern that I need to change.
- I don’t feel right just saying “I’m sorry”. I want to make it up to you. What would you consider appropriate?
- I really messed up this time. Please forgive me.
- I wish I would have thought before I acted. I’m so stupid.
- Please forgive me already. Don’t make me beg.
- It’s so hard for me to say “I’m sorry.” Please don’t ask me to apologize.
- You know me. You know I am sorry.
- This is so uncomfortable for me, but because our relationship is so important, I am apologizing.
Throughout this mini-course, we will explore which are better apologies and why. We will unpack the elements of effective apologies and discover your and your spouse’s preferred ways of receiving an apology.