Tact is the ability to tell the truth in a way that considers other people’s feelings and reactions.
These hurt feelings, invite defensiveness, and have damaging impact.
Instead, choose words and tone that are considerate.
If TACT – consideration and respect – is your goal, be flexible with your thinking, and your words will follow.
Some words just sound kinder and more respectful than others.
Shades of meanings – positive & negative connotations
Sometimes things just have to be brought up. Don’t not bring them up because you want to avoid a conflict. Things will just fester.
Talk about the situation, not your spouse.
This promotes collaboration and doesn’t feel like criticism.
NOT: “Why do you have to be so inconsiderate and leave such a mess…?”
RATHER: “There are pizza boxes everywhere. What did you have in mind about cleaning it up?