Topics for discussion:
What are the ways that you will ask for a time-out? Words, hand signals, eye movements, head nods? What might you do or say when you are with other people? Practice together so that you can easily understand each other.
Each of you share what are your preferred ways to soothe yourselves when you are stressed?
What are some warning signals that indicate to you that you are quickly going into fight mode and you need a time-out? What is something you observed in your spouse? Share with respect and tact. “I noticed that before the fight, you tend to _________”
How will you tell each other if you are not yet ready to continue the conversation?