Your relationship to money, how you deal with money, has deep psychological underpinnings. How money was talked about, how it was spent or save, and what was done with the money all impact how you deal with money as an adult.
It is important to reflect on your own attitudes and behaviors around money to better understand yourself. And so that you can share with your spouse.
- How did your parents spend money?
- How did your parents save money?
- How did your parents talk about money (or didn’t talk about it, or worried aloud about it, or screamed about it)
- How did your parents deal with allowances with you and your siblings?
What are some specific childhood money memories of
- your parents? Work and money. Use of money. Philanthropy. Pressures about making money. Family traditions.
- your siblings and other relatives? Allowance – how did you spend? Was it ever taken away? Jealousy or competition?
- your peers? Any peers richer or poorer than you. How did you feel around them?
- your school? Conflicts between what you learned in school and you saw around you.
What emotions do these memories evoke?
What messages (either directly or indirectly) about money and materialism…
- did you get in school?
- did you get from your family?
- did you get from your peers?
- did you get from the community you grew up in?
- you get from the culture around you?
- Self worth
- Other ….
What did you tell yourself about money?
I want to be just like ______________?
In what way ?
I want to never be like ______________?
In what way ?
How I want to deal with money?