During these conversations, you should get a better understanding of the reasonings behind each’s money styles. Do not judge, just seek to understand.
For example: If someone grew up seeing much poverty, she may want to make as much money as possible so she can alleviate the pain of others.
For example: If someone equates money with status, they may want to flaunt their money.
For example: If someone always heard negative comments about materialism, they may shun anything beyond the basic necessities and not allow themselves to have any comforts.