Let your spouse have the space and time to do the things that are important to them. Our desires don’t always outweigh their desires. And note, they may just want or need time for a hobby or some downtime. It isn’t always about tasks, errands and chores.
Too often, we want our priorities to be our spouse’s priorities. We make comment on our spouse’s desires or priorities.
How to give them space.
1. Keep quiet about your opinions about how they should use their time. Doing what they think is important might be part of their self care, even if you wouldn’t think it is. Hobbies, chores, errands, shopping.
2. Ask: “How would you like to spend the evening?” or “How would you like to spend tomorrow?” This is a great way to give your spouse the space to share how they’d like to spend their time. It’s also a great way to meet in the middle.