Never go to sleep angry. Ok, almost never.
It’s not so much that you have to work it all out before you allow yourself to go to sleep. Rather, it’s more about lightening up and learning to let go of the little irritations. It’s just not worth it. Agree that you have different perspectives on the matter and let it go- forever.
And go to sleep. (This is about the little things. Larger conflicts must be addressed or they will impact the marriage.)