Vulnerability is the courage to be yourself. Pull down your guard and allow your spouse in. Let them see your human and imperfect self. The more times you’re vulnerable, the stronger the bond. There is a certain intimacy of vulnerability that can become precious between you.
Being vulnerable can be risky and thus scary; there is a chance that you can be hurt. But for all its risks, there’s much to be gained by being vulnerable. And its risky nature is the very reason it creates such intimacy.
Share a dream, a fear, a difficult memory, a failure, an unusual interest.
And if your vulnerability is not met with the response you had hoped, don’t give up on vulnerability. Talk about it.