by Devora Krasnianski, founder of Adai Ad Institute
The right person to marry will depend almost totally on who you are.
During shiduchim, you are seeking a match for you. If you don’t really know who you are, you may end up with a fine person – but not the best match for you.
Before you bring someone into your life, it is important to figure out what your life is all about.
What are your values? What does Yiddishkeit mean to you – practically in your every day living? What type of family would you like to raise? What drives you? What brings you joy? What brings meaning to your life?
(And, are you emotionally healthy and ready for marriage?)
These are also important topics to cover during Shiduch dating. So the other person can get to know you better.