Your spouse genuinely wants to give and do for you. They want to make your life easier and more pleasant. Without expecting anything in return.
Receive their gift to you. Accept it graciously. Delight in their giving.
Allowing yourself to receive from others is a gift to the giver. And to yourself.
For the giver (or gifter): They are opening themselves and trying to make your life better. It gives them genuine pleasure to do so. Allow them the joy of giving to you.
As far as for yourself: If you try to be the source for everything in your life, you don’t allow anyone to give to you. This leads to exhaustion and burnout, and resentment. Allow yourself to receive too. This keeps your life in better balance.