Periodically reflect on your marriage:
What is it like to be married to me?
What is it like to be my husband/wife?
Do you like what you see? What are you doing that enhances your spouse’s life?Is there some area that you could improve? Something you should be doing more often? Less often?
You might use the SSC (Start, Stop, Continue) model:
What should I START doing that I am not yet doing currently?
What should I STOP doing that is not working well for my marriage?
What should I CONTINUE doing – things that are working well for the marriage? How might I build on those?