Remember why you got married to your spouse. The happy moments.

Remember what you admired and liked about your spouse when you first committed to a lifetime together. (And if you don’t remember, ask some of your friends from back them to remind you.)

When (if) you hit a rough patch, bring up that positive image of your spouse’s best self. And address that person. The way you were in the beginning.

It’s not easy, but so possible. And a much better way than falling into a downward spiral of fights or withdrawing from each other.

Depending on your own personality, you might attach this memory to a picture, song, scent, phrase, food. And conjure that up as needed.

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