Don’t make your spouse guess at your reasonings. Explaining your thinking helps them understand how you came to that conclusion. In this way, they can better see the integrity of your decision. And it can help them as they try to integrate it into their life (if they so choose).
Share clearly and fully.
The way you bring it up can really help them be open to hearing it. Start with a soft opening. “I want to share how I came to this conclusion.”
Then share your thought process.
– “My understanding about this is … because …”
– “I used to think …. But now I think … because ….”
– “I see it this way because of a past experience …”