SHIDUCH DATING

Shiduchim. Every person’s experience is unique. There are no rules. People have lots of questions and concerns. 

Adai Ad aims to provide guidance and support through the journey. We have instituted the Shiduch University to support daters through the various stages of relationships.  We also have several resources covering a range of topics related to dating and relationships.

Adai Ad also provides dating coaching for those who want a more personalized support before and during dating. 

 

Shiduch University covers a range of topics related to Shiduchim and dating relationships. These are categorized according to the various stages of the dating relationship: from before knowing each other, through getting to know each other, then developing the relationship and finally to committing to marriage. 

If you have any other questions, please ask. We will include into a future Shiduch University lesson.

1. Dating, in general
2. Getting to Know Each Other
3. Developing the Relationship
4. Committing to Marriage

Adai Ad articles

When, Not If: Discussing Personal Issues on a Shidduch Date

 By Devora Krasnianski, founder of Adai Ad Q: “I am dating Leah and she seems like a great girl. I heard some rumors about her family though she hasn’t said anything. Should I just assume that what I heard is just gossip from angry neighbors? I do want to get to the bottom of it.…

How well do you know her?

Her values Her values should be compatible with yours. They do not have to be identical. How does she envision her family life to be? her role? her husband’s role? What drives her? What does she see as her purpose in life? How does her Yiddishkeit affect who she is? What are her priorities? How important is…

Dear parents, you mean well, but …

A young lady writes a letter to her parents: I know you want to see me settled in a happy marriage, and that is why you are working so diligently for a shiduch for me. I love you, I truly appreciate your intent, but the way you are going about it isn’t working for me.

Your shiduch ‘wishlist’

As you work through a list of qualities that you absolutely must have in a spouse, it is also important to state to yourself WHY that is so crucial to you for a successful marriage.

Getting parents & adult children on the same page

When parents and children are ‘not on the same page about shiduchim’, it causes much frustration, waste of time and efforts, and overall disillusionment with the shidduch system. This article shares some ways an adult child might discuss this with their parents. Respect and appreciation for your parents are crucial for such conversations to be effective.

How well do you know the other person

When meeting someone for shiduchim purposes, it is important to know what you ought to know about each other and the relationship before you commit to marriage and a life time together.

A Different Kind of Date

Dating ideas. The idea is not only to have a nice time together, but to get to know each other from a different angle.

How to recognize if your date has a growth mindset

Throughout your dating, there is so much you are learning about each other. It is important that you also ascertain that the other has the willingness to put the necessary effort into growing and changing through life.

Conversations between Adult Children & Parents

Enjoy your adult child’s company. No matter your shared interests or differences of life choices, you are family and it’s Yom Tov. Create happy and emotionally healthy memories and they’ll always come back home.

Recognizing Verbal Abuse

Here we briefly outline the various forms of verbal abuse. And how to recognize patterns of verbal abuse.

Some questions to build relationships

In order to build the foundation for a relationship, you need to create a meaningful connection, and this comes when you truly connect with who the other person is.

Words Have Power

So much of communication is not the overall message but the actual words, tone, what is stated first, etc. These all reflect what is in our hearts about the matter.

Dating at the Speed of Trust

When we trust someone, we are more comfortable in their company, conversation flows much smoother, and the relationship is much more enjoyable and pleasant. Isn’t that what we all want in a dating experience – comfortability, good conversation and an overall pleasant experience.

Conversation Starters for First Date

Some discussion starters to help you learn lots about a person – passions, character, personality, priorities, how they deal with life situations. The real person.

What does it mean when a Bochur wears a white shirt

  by Devora Krasnianski, founder of Adai Ad Institute A white button-down shirt … or a colored T shirt  … or a colored button-down shirt …  or whatever. All you know is that person is wearing a white shirt. Right now. People are so much more complex than their clothing.  The shirt does not necessarily…

Who Are You?

Take the time to get to know yourself. It’s hard at first, but so rewarding!

“Pressure-Cooker” Shidduch Time

  by Devora Krasnianski, founder of Adai Ad Institute as posted on COLlive.com Yossi and Leah Yossi had summer plans that he was very excited about. First, he would spend 5 weeks as head counselor in a Gan Yisroel and then a few weeks of traveling to help Shluchim in some farflung, exotic destinations. He…

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