You want to get to your destination faster, so you drive faster. And you save 20 minutes on the few hour drive. Wow, now you can boast that you did that drive in the shortest amount of time.
And at the same time, your spouse is picking their stomach up from the floor. They were anxious for all that time. And they’ll likely roll their eyes every time you boast about the all-time low driving time.
Instead of speeding to the destination, enjoy the time of the journey too. You have the time together for good and deep conversation, or banter, or singing silly songs. For relationship building instead of relationship tensing.