Some of the most loving words: “I didn’t realize that”

You didn’t mean to hurt your spouse. Sometimes, you can’t know in advance how your words, actions or inactions might land on your spouse. Something may trigger a memory or a sensitivity.

Validate their feelings.
Acknowledge that what you said or did brought up negative feelings.
And then say, “I’m so glad you told me. I didn’t realize. Now that I know, I hope to do better.”

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