In order to move along in the dating, you will need to be vulnerable at some point.
You will want to know that the other person accepts who you are – as you are. With all your humanness and ‘baggage’. You are going to have to share that at some point.
Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s the courage to show up and be seen as you are. It may be tough to be vulnerable, but it’s worth it (in dating and throughout your adult life).
Being vulnerable is important to all your relationships.
Vulnerability is about exposing who we really are, letting go of the ‘perfect image’, and opening ourselves up. It’s our imperfections that makes us human.
At some point, you must open up. If you want to get married, you have to get through this stage of sharing the more personal and sensitive topics. Take the risk.
When you are married, you will have to have hard conversations where you will have to be vulnerable. During this dating period, you can see how you two communicate around these harder topics. There really shouldn’t be a subject that ‘I can’t bring that up with her/him’.
Yes, taking the risk to be vulnerable does mean that you might still be let down. It’s true.
Making yourself vulnerable doesn’t just mean being willing to share your fears or insecurities. It can mean putting yourself in a position where you can be rejected, saying a joke that may not be funny, asserting an opinion that may offend others, talking about unusual interests and hobbies, telling a someone that you like them.
BTW, vulnerability brings out the real you – which more people find as interesting, confident and attractive. Be willing to show the real you.