Vulnerability. Not performing.Not managing your image all the time.Not trying to always sound impressive, easygoing, unaffected, or “fine.” Real intimacy starts when someone begins to let themselves actually be seen.Not through dramatic oversharing. Just through honesty. “I was hurt by that.”“I miss you.”“That made me nervous.”“I care about this.” Simple. Human. Real. And staying present […]
For some people, sharing positive emotions takes vulnerability and courage too. Sometimes, we are uncomfortable expressing gratitude, appreciation or compliments because we’re not sure how to go about doing so. We struggle for the right words to express our feelings. We are concerned about how our words or actions will be received. And then somehow
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For some people, sharing positive emotions takes vulnerability and courage too. Sometimes, we are uncomfortable expressing gratitude, appreciation or compliments because we’re not sure how to go about doing so. We struggle for the right words to express our feelings. We are concerned about how our words or actions will be received. And then somehow
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Give yourself permission to lean on your partner. Of course, we are perfectly capable of taking care of ourselves, but one of the nice things about being married is that we don’t have to shoulder life all on our own. We can let our spouse take care of us once in a while. We don’t
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Vulnerability makes us human. A “Superman” or “Wonder Woman” persona can be alienating in relationships. It puts a wall between us and other people – making us seem untouchable and unrelatable. Vulnerability is crucial for intimacy. When we pull down our guard and allow our spouse in, we let them see our human and imperfect
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Vulnerability is consciously choosing to NOT hide our emotions, desires and opinions from others. It’s about not being overly concerned with protecting our ego and worrying about what others might think of us. It’s about letting our guard down and sharing the more tricky parts of ourselves. It’s about letting others see the real and
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Being honest is being real. Appearing to be perfect is an illusion. And erodes trust and connection.If you want to be a more honest person, the first step is to be you. With all your humanness, all your strengths and limitations. With all your imperfections. One of the reasons why people are dishonest is because
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“Playing small” is when we dismiss what we truly want in life in order to maintain a present-moment – short-term, temporary – illusion of comfort, security, acceptance, or control. Such actions are motivated by our fears, insecurities, low self-worth, and scarcity. It’s impulsive, reactive — and often frantic. By contrast, “playing big” means we’re willing
A “Superman” or “Wonder Woman” persona can be alienating in relationships. It puts a wall between you and other people – making you seem untouchable and unrelatable. Vulnerability is crucial for intimacy. Vulnerability is not weak, rather it is the greatest form of courage. Brene Brown defines vulnerability as “the willingness to show up and
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It is important to communicate what you want or need from your spouse. It is not fair to make them guess. And, in the end, you won’t be getting what you want or need. State your feelings and then what you would like to happen. “I’m feeling [negative emotion]. And I want to feel [positive
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