Wishful thinking is one of the most powerful forces on the planet. When we generally like someone, we try to convince ourselves that there is a way that all those aspects that we don’t like will just magically disappear. The unfortunate reality is that people don’t change very easily.
The only fair assumption when dating is that the person most likely will not change. Either accept what it is, or move on. If you are offended by her politics or are struggling with his weight, see whether you can let go of your reservations because of your overall positive feelings towards the person. If you cannot, stop dreaming that you get this to change, because it probably won’t.