Don’t infer or assume.
Ask more questions to gain more clarity.

Too often, people make assumptions, guesses or inaccurate inferences based on something the other person did or said. People may dismiss or end a shiduch because of an assumption. Or, they may hopefully assume things are as they wish them to be.

They may assume someone is inconsiderate based on a misreading of the situation. On the flip, someone may infer that the other is more spiritual than they really are based on a random comment.

Ask: “There’s something that I want to better understand. When you said ABC, what did you mean?” “How should I understand your silence?” “I am trying to know you better, I am getting a sense that you do …. Is that accurate?”