End the Abuse
Even one situation of abuse in a marriage is too much. Unfortunately this is a reality for some families. Adai Ad aims to provide support for those in the situation and education and awareness to prevent such pain from happening.
Adai Ad articles
Help Her Get Free
The following is a brief summary of the excellent book Helping her Get Free by Susan Brewster. Some of the points she makes may not come naturally to you as you watch a loved one suffer in an abusive marriage. The most important point is “Do No Harm” and so it is so important that…
Domestic Abuse or Something Else?
It can be very confusing to people who feel abused in their marriage, to try and determine if the cause is a dysfunctional relationship that may have some abusive features, a spouse with a mental illness or domestic abuse.
How to detect narcissistic tendencies during dating
Narcissism: What is it? What is it like to be married to a narcissist? How to detect narcissistic tendencies during dating?
Does the Mizbeach Cry when an Abusive Marriage Ends?
Summary of a conference call by Rabbi YY Jacobson about “Does the Mizbeach Cry when an Abusive Marriage Ends?”
Ignorance is NOT bliss!
What we don’t know about Domestic Abuse can hurt someone else. This lack of real knowledge prevents too many people from recognizing just who can be an abuser and who can be a victim. And so they just don’t provide the right support and understanding that victims need.
Principles for Being of Help to a Loved One in an Abusive Relationship
Important Dos and Don’t when trying to be helpful to a loved one in an abusive marriage.
Recognizing Verbal Abuse
Here we briefly outline the various forms of verbal abuse. And how to recognize patterns of verbal abuse.
Recognizing Controlling Behaviors while Dating
Red flags to look out for during dating.
Resources for Support
Check out local 12 Step Programs
where many people have found support and strength dealing with all sorts of vices
1-718-337-3700
1-888-883-2323
Legal services and consultations
347-592-2124
1-800-603-OHEL
[email protected]
Relief Hotline (therapist referrals)
718-431-9501
Sephardic Bikur Cholim – Courage to Heal
718-787-0009
SOVRI
212-844-1495
973-777-7638 x154
[email protected]
The Rachel Coalition
973-740-1233 and ask for “Rachel.”
[email protected]
One Step Forward (resources for divorce)
844-673-5463
Met Council’s Family Violence Helpline
212-453-9618
800-621-4673
Mt Sinai Hospital Takanot program
212-423-2147
NYLAG – New York Legal Assistance Group
212-613-5000
Sanctuary for Families
212-349-6009
Nishma Hotline (Los Angeles)
818-623-0300
Aleinu Family Resource Center (Los Angeles)
310-247-0534
Shalva (Chicago)
773-583-HOPE(4673)
JFS Windows (Detroit)
248-559-1500
Project Chana (Baltimore)
410-234-0023
[email protected]
House of Ruth (Maryland)
(410) 889-7884
[email protected]
Jewish Family and Children’s Services (Pittsburgh)
412-422-7200
Lakewood Community Services Corp
732-886-6964
Jewish Family Services (Dallas)
972-437-9950
Jewish Coalition Against Domestic Abuse (DC)
877-88-JCADA (52232)
Auberge Pour Femmes (Montreal)
514-731-0833
Jewish Family & Child (Toronto)
416-638-7800
Jewish Women’s Aid (UK)
020-8445-8060
Bat Melech (Israel)
972-2-651-6103
Jewish Taskforce Against Family Violence (Australia)
613-9523-6850
I’m so Confused, Am I Being Abused?
Lisa Twerski, LCSW
Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski MD
Dr. Miriam Adahan
Melody Beattie
Lundy Bancroft
Lundy Bancroft
When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse
Lundy Bancroft
When Love Goes Wrong: What to Do When You Can’t Do Anything Right
Ann Jones and Susan Schechter
Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women
Susan Brewster
When Good Men Behave Badly: Change Your Behavior, Change Your Relationship
C. Peter Bankart PhD
Freeing the Angry Mind: How Men Can Use Mindfulness and Reason To Save Their Lives and Relationships
C. Peter Bankart PhD
Not to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages
Susan Weitzman
Children and Domestic Violence Fact Sheet Series
National Child Traumatic Stress Network
Helping Traumatized Children Learn
Massachusetts Advocates for Children
Domestic Violence and Children
National Child Traumatic Stress Network
A trauma-sensitive approach to education and learning for children aged 0-8 years
Dept of Education, Victoria, AU
Domestic violence and abuse – its effects on children
Royal College of Psychiatrists, UK
A Domestic Violence Training Manual For Early Childhood Education
Institute for Safe Families
Creating Trauma-Sensitive Classrooms (ECE)
NAEYC
Child Exposed to DV: Info for Teachers
LFCC
How Domestic Violence In One Home Affects Every Child In A Class
NPReD
In Cases of Domestic Abuse, Is Change Possible?
Lisa Twerski, LCSW
Domestic Abuse, A Painful Affront to Shalom Bayis
Lisa Twerski, LCSW
A Victim of Abuse or Struggling in a Bad Marriage?
Lisa Twerski, LCSW
Domestic Violence Wheel of Power
Why Doesn’t She Just Leave? Understanding the Complexity of Domestic Abuse
Shoshana D Frydman, PhD, LCSW
Tackling a “Shondeh”
Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski, M.D.
Spouse Abuse in Religious Families: Some myths and realities
The Magazine of The Orthodox Union
What Not to Say to Victims of Domestic Abuse
Times of Israel
Gaslighting: Know It and Identify It to Protect Yourself
Psychology Today
How to survive gaslighting: when manipulation erases your reality
The Guardian
When Brusies can’t be Seen: Living with Emotional Abuse
chabad.org
chabad.org
chabad.org
Myths & Misconceptions of Domestic Abuse in the Orthodox Community
Shalva
Things You Normally See in a Domestic Violence Victim
Jsafe.org
NYPD
Discerning between Domestic Violence and Dysfunction