Successful Marriage (Shalom Bayis)
Adai Ad means ‘successfully lasting’ in Hebrew; thus, an Adai Ad relationship is one that is successfully lasting, where all in the family thrive.
Shalom Bayis is all about harmony, mutual reverance and devotion between a husband and wife. It is not simply the absence of discord, unity and respect. It is in the nuances of everyday living: how each thinks of the other, the words and tone they use, the little acts.
Newlyweds of Corona
A gift from Adai Ad to the Newlyweds of Corona.
So many of recently married couples and upcoming newlyweds are facing an unprecedented shanah rishona. So much is different from what they had expected. So much uncertainty, and dashed dreams and plans. The Newlyweds of Corona project by Adai Ad was initiated to provide them practical insights and inspirational chizuk for their unique situation.
Adai Ad articles
Do spouses have to share everything?
Withholding information from each other -is that privacy or secrecy.
Plan together for a meaningful and relaxed Yom Kippur
It may not be the easiest day of the year; with advance planning and a ‘can do’ attitude, both the mother and father can have a meaningful and spiritual Yom Kippur. As a couple, work out how to get in some davening on behalf of the family, fasting and attending to the safety and well-being of your children.
Perspectives about Benny’s day off
Approaching one spouse’s day off from mindset of partnership.
Letting your Spouse Know you Feel Enriched by Them
Often, we are indeed grateful and appreciative, but we don’t express it. Or, we say a simple Thank You. Sometimes it is hard to articulate exactly how your life was enriched by the other person’s actions or words. Take the time to really think how that action makes you feel. And share that with them.
Some ways to improve your marriage — with little help from your spouse
Good news! It is possible to improve your marriage – even with no help from your spouse.
Expressing your Real Feelings
The difficulty in identifying and expressing feelings is common. Some important points about how to express feelings.
Rabbi Lipskier responds
Recently, Rabbi Mendel Lipskier of Sherman Oaks, CA spoke via conference call to newly married men about the first years of marriage.
Several questions came in anonymously after the call. Rabbi Lipskier has graciously agreed to answer them.
How to recognize if your date has a growth mindset
Throughout your dating, there is so much you are learning about each other. It is important that you also ascertain that the other has the willingness to put the necessary effort into growing and changing through life.
How to develop a growth mindset for marriage (and the rest of your life)
Some ways to foster and strengthen your growth mindset.
Marriage is all about love, respect and acceptance. And something else?
A successful marriage needs acceptance and effort.
Resources for Support
Eternal Joy: Married Life & Shalom Bayis
Based on the teachings of the Lubavitcher Rebbe
online version
A Happy Home
The Lubavitcher Rebbe on Marital Harmony
Edited by Rabbi Ritterman
איש וביתו מהרב אליהו כי-טוב
בית היהודי קרסיק
שערי נישואין ליקוט מהרבי
10 Minutes A Day To a Better Marriage
Dr. Meir Wikler
The First Year Of Marriage
Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski M.D.,
Marriage
Rabbi Zelig Pliskin
GPS For a Happier Marriage: Marriage techniques that work
Rabbi Aaron Laine
The Menuchah Principle in Marriage
Shaya Ostrov, CSW
The Inner Circle
Shaya Ostrov, CSW
The Garden of Peace: A Marital Guide for Men Only
Rabbi Shalom Arush
Women’s Wisdom: The Garden of Peace for Women
Rabbi Shalom Arush
Choosing to Love
Gila Manolson
After the Chuppah: Making Marriage Work
Dr. Miriam Adahan
Beyond Bashert: A Guide to Dating and Marriage Enrichment
Lisa Aiken
The River, the Kettle and the Bird: A Torah Guide to a Successful Marriage
Aharon Feldman
To Relinquish Control
Rachel Klein
The Missing Peace
Esther Gendelman and Rachel Stein
That’s Why I Married You: How to Dance with Personality Differences
Chana Levitan MSc
What Did You Say? Making Yourself Understood in Marriage: A Jewish Perspective
Rabbi Simcha Cohen
The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
Gary Chapman
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Dr. John Gottman
The Man’s Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets
Dr. John Gottman
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
john Gray
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
Harville Hendrix Ph.D.
The Surrendered Wife( A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy Passion and Peace)
Laura Doyle
First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life
Laura Doyle
Real Love in Marriage: The Truth About Finding Genuine Happiness Now and Forever
Greg Baer. M.D.
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and Marriages
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation
Deborah Tannen
Fighting for Your Marriage
Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley Susan L. Blumberg
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Marriage
Stephen R. Covey
DivorceBusting
Michele Weiner-Davis
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
Patricia Love
Hold Me Tight
Dr. Sue Johnson
When Ice Cream is Not Enough: Stories that Nurture Loving Relationships
Ellen Gendelman
6 husbands every wife should have: How Couples Who Change Together Stay Together
Dr. Steven Craig
Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married
Gary Chapman
The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
How to Have the Best Marriage Possible
Dr. Miriam Adahan
A Guide to a Better Marriage. Part 1
Dr. Miriam Adahan
Bridging the Male-Female Communication Gap
Dr. Miriam Adahan
How to Choose a Marital Therapist
Michele Weiner-Davis
divorcebusting.com
What’s a Pro-Marriage Counselor & How Do You Find One?
Marriage Tips for Men. Part 1
Rabbi Yitzy Hurwitz
Marriage Tips for Men. Part 2 – How to Listen
Rabbi Yitzy Hurwitz
Marriage Tips for Men. Part 3- What to Say
Rabbi Yitzy Hurwitz
Marriage Tips for Men. Part 4 – Making a Home
Rabbi Yitzy Hurwitz
Video/ Audio
Rebbetzin Goldie Plotkin
Torah Cafe
Do you fight behind closed doors? Kids know everything.
Dr. David Pelcovitz
Torah Cafe
Rabbi Ari Laine
Torah Cafe
The Art of Marriage: To Love and Laugh
Rabbi Yosef Y. Jacobson
Torah Cafe
Rabbi Avrohom Plotkin & Mrs. Goldie Plotkin
Torah Cafe
Rabbi Manis Friedman
Torah Cafe
Rabbi Simon Jacobson
Meaningful Life
Shalom Bayis: Emotional Connection