Successful Marriage (Shalom Bayis)

Adai Ad means ‘successfully lasting’ in Hebrew; thus, an Adai Ad relationship is one that is successfully lasting,  where all in the family thrive. 

Shalom Bayis is all about  harmony, mutual reverance and devotion between a husband and wife. It is not simply the absence of discord, unity and respect.  It is in the nuances of everyday living: how each thinks of the other, the words and tone they use, the little acts.

Newlyweds of Corona

A gift from Adai Ad to the Newlyweds of Corona. 

So many of recently married couples and upcoming newlyweds are facing an unprecedented shanah rishona. So much is different from what they had expected. So much uncertainty, and dashed dreams and plans. The Newlyweds of Corona project by Adai Ad was initiated to provide them practical insights and inspirational chizuk for their unique situation. 

Adai Ad articles

Plan together for a meaningful and relaxed Yom Kippur

It may not be the easiest day of the year; with advance planning and a ‘can do’ attitude, both the mother and father can have a meaningful and spiritual Yom  Kippur.  As a couple, work out how to get in some davening on behalf of the family, fasting and attending to the safety and well-being of your children.   

Letting your Spouse Know you Feel Enriched by Them

Often, we are indeed grateful and appreciative, but we don’t express it. Or, we say a simple Thank You.  Sometimes it is hard to articulate exactly how your life was enriched by the other person’s actions or words.  Take the time to really think how that action makes you feel.  And share that with them.

Expressing your Real Feelings

The difficulty in identifying and expressing feelings is common. Some important points about how to express feelings.

Rabbi Lipskier responds

Recently, Rabbi Mendel Lipskier of Sherman Oaks, CA spoke via conference call to newly married men about the first years of marriage.  

Several questions came in anonymously after the call. Rabbi Lipskier has graciously agreed to answer them.

How to recognize if your date has a growth mindset

Throughout your dating, there is so much you are learning about each other. It is important that you also ascertain that the other has the willingness to put the necessary effort into growing and changing through life.

Resources for Support

Eternal Joy: Married Life  & Shalom Bayis

Based on the teachings of the Lubavitcher Rebbe

online version


A Happy Home

The Lubavitcher Rebbe on Marital Harmony

Edited by Rabbi Ritterman


 איש וביתו מהרב אליהו כי-טוב 


בית היהודי קרסיק 


שערי נישואין ליקוט מהרבי


10 Minutes A Day To a Better Marriage

Dr. Meir Wikler


The First Year Of Marriage

Rabbi Abraham J. Twerski M.D.,


Marriage

Rabbi Zelig Pliskin


GPS For a Happier Marriage: Marriage techniques that work

Rabbi Aaron Laine


The Menuchah Principle in Marriage

Shaya Ostrov, CSW


The Inner Circle

Shaya Ostrov, CSW


The Garden of Peace: A Marital Guide for Men Only 

Rabbi Shalom Arush


Women’s Wisdom: The Garden of Peace for Women

Rabbi Shalom Arush


Choosing to Love

Gila Manolson


After the Chuppah: Making Marriage Work

Dr. Miriam Adahan


Beyond Bashert: A Guide to Dating and Marriage Enrichment

Lisa Aiken


The River, the Kettle and the Bird: A Torah Guide to a Successful Marriage 

Aharon Feldman


To Relinquish Control

Rachel Klein


The Missing Peace
Esther Gendelman and Rachel Stein


That’s Why I Married You: How to Dance with Personality Differences

Chana Levitan MSc


What Did You Say? Making Yourself Understood in Marriage: A Jewish Perspective

Rabbi Simcha Cohen


The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

Gary Chapman


The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Dr. John Gottman


The Man’s Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets

Dr. John Gottman


Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

Marshall B. Rosenberg


Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

john Gray


Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

Harville Hendrix Ph.D.


The Surrendered Wife( A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy Passion and Peace)

Laura Doyle


First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life

Laura Doyle


Real Love in Marriage: The Truth About Finding Genuine Happiness Now and Forever

Greg Baer. M.D.


The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and Marriages

Dr. Laura Schlessinger 


You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation

Deborah Tannen


Fighting for Your Marriage

Howard J. Markman,  Scott M. Stanley  Susan L. Blumberg 


The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Marriage

Stephen R. Covey


DivorceBusting

Michele Weiner-Davis


How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It 

Patricia Love


Hold Me Tight

Dr. Sue Johnson


When Ice Cream is Not Enough: Stories that Nurture Loving Relationships

Ellen Gendelman


6 husbands every wife should have: How Couples Who Change Together Stay Together

Dr. Steven Craig

 

Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married

Gary Chapman


The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage

Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Video/ Audio

 

Secrets of Shalom Bayis

Rebbetzin Goldie Plotkin

Torah Cafe

 

Do you fight behind closed doors? Kids know everything.

Dr. David Pelcovitz

Torah Cafe

 

GPS For a Happier Marriage

Rabbi Ari Laine

Torah Cafe

 

The Art of Marriage: To Love and Laugh

Rabbi Yosef Y. Jacobson

Torah Cafe

 

The Five Love Languages

Rabbi Avrohom Plotkin & Mrs. Goldie Plotkin

Torah Cafe

 

The Three Pillars of Marriage

Rabbi Manis Friedman

Torah Cafe

 

The Secret to Lasting Love

Rabbi Simon Jacobson

Meaningful Life

 

Shalom Bayis: Emotional Connection

Rabbi Simon Jacobson

Chasidus Applied

 

I Am Married, Now What?

Rabbi Manis Friedman

11213.org

 

Don’t Be A Good Husband

Rabbi Manis Friedman

11213.org

 

Falling in Love Staying in Love

Rebbetzin Lori Palatnik

Sinai Indaba

 

Ten Marriage Commandments: A Guide to Domestic Tranquility

Rabbi Aaron Raskin

Chabad.org

 

 

 

 

A Tale of Two Brains: Difference Between Men and Women

Mark Gungor

 

Getting Through to Your Man

Michele Weiner-Davis

divorcebusting.com

 

Act as if

Michele Weiner-Davis

divorcebusting.com

 

Communication Tips for Women

Michele Weiner-Davis

divorcebusting.com

 

5 Ways to Screw Up a Marriage

Couples Therapy Center

 


 

 

 
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