It can be super tough to hear your partner out during a difficult conversation without cutting in, but it’s worth it. Let your partner get their points across without interrupting. You might have to bite your tongue, but just listening instead of arguing can help you both get on the same page.

 When your spouse gets the sense that you are really listening to understand, they likely will be more relaxed and you can have a more productive conversation.

Try to show empathy and validate their feelings by acknowledging their perspective.
 “It makes sense that you see it that way.”
 “I can see why you might think that.”
 “That sounds really frustrating/upsetting/etc.”
 “I hear you.”
 “I appreciate you sharing your thoughts/feelings with me.”
 “I can imagine how difficult that must be for you.”
 “Thank you for explaining your perspective to me.”

This will create a safe space for them to share their thoughts and will increase the chances of resolving the issue peacefully.