Just because you feel very strongly about your opinions doesn’t make them facts. When discussing your views, present them as opinions, not as indisputable facts. All too often, we might present our perspectives as facts. To avoid this, try framing your opinions more openly:

• Instead of saying, “The fact of the matter is…,” say, “It seems to me…”
• Instead of saying, “You never…,” say, “There were three times recently that you…”
• Instead of saying, “You don’t have any clue about…,” say, “I’m starting to think that…”
• Instead of saying, “I know I’m right,” say, “Based on my understanding…”
• Instead of saying, “You always do this,” say, “I’ve noticed this happening frequently…”
• Instead of saying, “You don’t care about this,” say, “I’m concerned that this might not be as important to you as it is to me…”

This approach acknowledges that opinions are flexible and personal, while facts are concrete. It helps keep conversations open and respectful, allowing for a more constructive exchange of ideas.