Keeping what bothers you inside can have negative effects on your relationship. Here’s why it’s important to address your concerns openly:

• It Doesn’t Get Changed: If you don’t express what’s bothering you, it remains unaddressed and continues to affect you.

• Builds Disappointment and Resentment: Bottling up your feelings can lead to growing disappointment and resentment, which can erode trust and connection over time.

• Misses Opportunity for the Other to Get to Know You Better: Sharing your thoughts and feelings provides your partner with a deeper understanding of who you are and what matters to you.

• Misses Opportunity to Bond: Open communication creates opportunities for deeper bonding and strengthens your relationship by addressing issues together.

When you do share, express your frustrations with respect using “I” statements, such as “I feel upset when…” or “I need support with…” This approach helps avoid blame and focuses on your feelings and needs. End with a sincere, “Thank you for taking this seriously.”

The person receiving the message should respond with, “Thank you for telling me,” and then work on accommodating the request. This fosters respect and mutual understanding, helping to maintain a healthy and supportive relationship.