Compliments are nice, but admiration goes deeper—especially in marriage.

Instead of just saying “You’re amazing” or “Thanks for everything,” try “I admire how patient you were with the kids today” or “I admire how you handled that tough conversation with so much wisdom.” Rather than a general “You’re such a great spouse,” say “I admire how you always make me laugh, even on hard days.”

This kind of appreciation not only makes your spouse feel seen but also reinforces their strengths. It’s a way of saying, “I notice the effort and character behind what you do.” When we go beyond generic praise and highlight what truly impresses us, we create moments of genuine connection that strengthen our marriage.

Grounding your admiration in specifics makes it even more meaningful. What truly stands out? Their ability to stay calm under stress? Their consistency in showing up for you? Their kindness even when they’re exhausted? Take a moment to notice, appreciate, and articulate what you admire.