It might technically be true — maybe what’s coming up isn’t really about you. Maybe it’s shaped by your partner’s past, a sensitive spot, or their current state of mind.

But saying “That’s your issue, not mine” misses the point.
It sends the message: “Whatever you’re feeling, it’s not my problem.”

🎯 Even if the origin of the emotion isn’t yours, the moment is. It’s unfolding between the two of you — and how you respond affects the trust and emotional safety in your relationship.

And how much more so if you are part of the issue in some way. That’s when presence, not defensiveness, matters most.

The better move is curiosity, not disconnection. Try:

• 💬 “This seems to be touching something deeper. Want to talk about it?”
• 💬 “I can tell this matters to you. I’m here.”
• 💬 “I may not fully understand yet, but I want to.”

🎯Because being a partner doesn’t mean you’re always the cause. It means you’re willing to stay present when something needs care.