This phrase can shut down a conversation before it even starts. It dismisses the importance of the topic and can make your partner feel like their concerns are invalid or unimportant. It’s a quick way to make the other person feel unheard, and that can lead to frustration and emotional distance.

Instead of blocking the conversation, recognize that their feelings or thoughts are worth engaging with. Even if the topic seems trivial to you, it may carry significant weight for them.

🎯 Try:

Showing openness:
💬 “I didn’t realize this was so important to you. Let’s talk about it.”
💬 “I hear you—let’s dive into this together.”
💬 “I wasn’t aware this was bothering you. I want to understand.”

Validating their perspective:
💬 “I understand why this is on your mind, let’s work through it.”
💬 “It seems like this really matters to you, let’s talk about it.”
💬 “I get that this is something you’re feeling strongly about. I’m here to listen.”

🎯 When we show willingness to listen, we make space for connection and problem-solving rather than cutting it off with dismissal.