Supporting them in the way they want to be supported,
comforted, and cared for.

Not the way you would want to be supported.
Not the way that feels most natural to you.

But the way that actually feels supportive to them.

Sometimes that looks different than you expected.
Sometimes it may not immediately make sense to you.

Especially when it comes to feeling supported, intention matters far less than whether the support actually lands for the other person.