Knowing your spouse.

Healthy relationships are built by paying attention.
Learning what makes your spouse feel cared for.
What matters to them.
What they enjoy.
What they need.

Each person is unique.
What feels loving to one person may not feel loving to another.

Not just doing what husbands or wives are “supposed” to do.
Not following a script.
Not being performative.
Not assuming that what feels loving to you will automatically feel loving to them.

Love is not about performing the role of a good spouse.
It is about being attuned to the actual person in front of you. 

Not giving the gift you think you are supposed to give.
Giving the gift they would actually want.

Not planning the date that sounds romantic.
Planning the date they would actually enjoy.

Because people do not feel most loved when you do
what everyone says you should do.

They feel most loved when they feel known.