Appreciating differences.

It is easy to appreciate the qualities you value.
It is harder to appreciate the qualities that are different from your own.

Maybe you are more social.
More organized.
More ambitious.
More involved.
More health-conscious.
More adventurous.
More whatever.

Over time, it can be tempting to measure your spouse against your own strengths.
To notice what they do not do.
To wish they were more like you.

Not every difference is a problem to solve.
But your strengths are not the only strengths that matter.

Your spouse brings strengths, qualities, and perspectives that you do not.
And it may be worthwhile to become curious about them.
To learn from them.
To borrow from them.
To let their strengths enrich your life the way your strengths enrich theirs.

Because different does not mean less.
It may simply mean different.

The goal is not to make each other the same.
The goal is to appreciate what each person brings to the relationship.