Am I Ready for Marriage?
with: Dr. Debbie Akerman
Marriage is a big step in life and you want to make sure you are ready for the commitment and responsibility of a marriage relationship. Dr. Debbie Akerman shares some important points to think about as you prepare for marriage.
Show Notes
Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad talks with Dr. Debbie Akerman and Ruchama Clapman of MASK about important aspects of marriage readiness.
more from this series at www.adaiad.org/marriage-ready
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www.maskparents.org
00:00 Welcome
03:10 Triangular Theory of Love: 1. Working together 2. Intimacy 3. Commitment
07:27 How does age consider into marriage readiness?
10:56 What does ‘giving’ mean in a marriage?
12:30 How to tell a person’s character?
14:35 Self-reflection: Look at life in the sum total.
16:08 It’s a good thing if the dates get stressed.
18:53 Try to see each other in different circumstances/ real life.
19:20 Difference between giving and co-dependency.
20:45 How ‘full’ do I have to be ready for marriage?
22:00 What are traits that are not compatible with healthy marriage?
26:43 Readiness after a difficult childhood or trauma?
30:30 It is not enough to know what you don’t want to do in your marriage.
32:45 If you are making a shift in your life, how long should you be settled into that new life before marriage?
35:56 Conflict theory: How do you have conflict?
38:09 Getting married after (or with) addiction. Honesty about addiction.
43:27 Do I have to share about my pornography addiction or experimentation?
45:06 What is considered an addiction? It is possible to be successfully married to a recovering addict.
49:32 What is the definition of co-dependency?
51:14 How does the concept of ‘ego’ work in a marriage?
53:23 How to address the pressure to get married? How do I know if I am ready to be married?
57:53 Can an anxious person get married? Yes.
1:00:24 Nobody will marry perfection. Accepting a person on their terms.
1:02:59 Dealing with trust issues.
1:03:30 How to pick a therapist that is right for you?
more from this series at www.adaiad.org/marriage-ready
www.adaiad.org
www.maskparents.org
00:00 Welcome
03:10 Triangular Theory of Love: 1. Working together 2. Intimacy 3. Commitment
07:27 How does age consider into marriage readiness?
10:56 What does ‘giving’ mean in a marriage?
12:30 How to tell a person’s character?
14:35 Self-reflection: Look at life in the sum total.
16:08 It’s a good thing if the dates get stressed.
18:53 Try to see each other in different circumstances/ real life.
19:20 Difference between giving and co-dependency.
20:45 How ‘full’ do I have to be ready for marriage?
22:00 What are traits that are not compatible with healthy marriage?
26:43 Readiness after a difficult childhood or trauma?
30:30 It is not enough to know what you don’t want to do in your marriage.
32:45 If you are making a shift in your life, how long should you be settled into that new life before marriage?
35:56 Conflict theory: How do you have conflict?
38:09 Getting married after (or with) addiction. Honesty about addiction.
43:27 Do I have to share about my pornography addiction or experimentation?
45:06 What is considered an addiction? It is possible to be successfully married to a recovering addict.
49:32 What is the definition of co-dependency?
51:14 How does the concept of ‘ego’ work in a marriage?
53:23 How to address the pressure to get married? How do I know if I am ready to be married?
57:53 Can an anxious person get married? Yes.
1:00:24 Nobody will marry perfection. Accepting a person on their terms.
1:02:59 Dealing with trust issues.
1:03:30 How to pick a therapist that is right for you?