Dr. Binyamin Tepfer talks about how pornography addiction can impact a marriage. Covering: “Should I get married or begin dating with an addiction?” “Should I get into a relationship with someone who has or had an addiction?” How to talk about a porn or sex addiction during dating. What type of help is appropriate.

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0:00 Introduction
2:35 What is ‘internet addiction’? Addiction to pornography.
6:22 What is addiction and what is not an addiction. And why it matters.
10:51 (This issue doesn’t go away just because someone is married.)
15:24 When pornography is used as an escape.
19:16 This behavior doesn’t go away on its own because there is underlying issue.
23:00 There is hope. This can be overcome – with work.
25:24 Key elements for successful change. And recovery routes.
33:29 Should this be shared on a shiduch date?
41:23 How long should someone be in recovery before starting to date for marriage?
45:51 Is it reasonable/ wise to question your date about pornography history?
48:43 What are recovery routes beside SA?
50:35 Q: “What if he says I will stop doing this – for you.”
53:30 Q: “What if currently dating and s/he reveals about addiction?”
56:54 wrap up
1:01:56 Q: “I’ve been doing this since I was 12.”
1:10:14 Q: “Does everyone who does the work get ‘cured’?
1:16:30 Wrap up 2