Dr. Yossi Shafer talks about shidduchim and mental illness. Covering: Why and how to share about a mental illness. What a relationship is all about and how that relates to marrying someone with a mental illness.

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“In all my years of practice, I’ve never had anyone have issues about being open and vulnerable about their mental health (when they did follow up with me) … The issues really only come when they either don’t disclose it or they themselves are in denial about it and then it comes out …. If that person is not accepting of it, that’s the biggest bracha that you saw it now and not later.”

0:00 Introduction
3:39 Mental health has different connotations to different people
5:39 Mental health issues doesn’t have to be so different than other things people deal with
6:28 How do I share about my mental illness on a date
7:43 When someone shares about mental illness
9:49 Mental health issues in our shidduch system
13:43 The underpinnings of a marriage: knowing and not judging each other
21:22 Speaking to their mental health professional
25:40 Give the other space and time to do their research about the illness
29:10 If it is not shared, there will be a sense of being betrayed
34:33 Personality disorders
37:31 The decision to marry someone has to be your own.
41:44 Mental illness and risky behaviors and addictions
43:03 Q: Should someone with mental illness marry someone with mental illness
45:45 Q: Mental illness, medication and pregnancy
51:22 Get diagnosis and start managing your mental illness as soon as possible