Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad talks with Reb. Malki Spira, LMHC and Ruchama Clapman of MASK about how to prepare for your successful marriage – in the time before marriage.

more from this series at www.adaiad.org/marriage-ready
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0:00 introduction
4:19 Preparing now for your marriage relationship.
9:50 The role of the wife has been transformed and this impacts expectations of marriage.
11:25 Unrealistic expectations directly impacts happiness.
14:20 In every marriage, there will be many unreconcilable differences.
16:40 Notice your expectations about marriage.
19:00 It is important that those differences don’t turn into gridlock (fighting or withdrawing).
19:30 About being mevater (relinquish needs/ wants) in marriage. Dos and don’ts.
22:08 How you handle the problems is more important than what the problems are.
25:35 There really isn’t a perfect person out there who can fulfill all your needs.
29:36 Strengthening the tools and mindsets for your marriage.
32:29 Commitment is integral for marriage to feel safe enough to be vulnerable.
38:06 You are two parts of one whole. What to do for your husband.
40:59 Q: What can we do in the time before marriage to develop these skills?
48:29 Wrap up