Devora Krasnianski speaks with Penina Flug, LCSW who delves into the topic of setting up the marriage for success with Penina Flug, LCSW. Penina is passionate about helping young couples set up for success from their dating experiences and also importantly through premarital and early marital education. In this conversation, we spoke about how to date for a successful marriage, the mindsets to have and the conversations and experiences to have while dating.

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To reach MASK: https://www.maskparents.org⁠

⁠ (This series is funded by a grant from the New York City DOVE initiative recommended by Council Member Rita Joseph)

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To reach Penina Flug, LCSW

Website: https://peninafluglcsw.com

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Episodes mentioned in the talk:

Marriage Readiness series: https://adaiad.org/shidduch-u/marriage-ready-episodes/

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3:57 The power of pre-marital education

5:04 What should be the focus in the dating process

7:04 The importance of having support and guidance through dating

10:27 What’s a healthy relationship? ABCs? Acceptance, belonging, comfort and safety

13:17 What to do when there are concerns or doubts about the shidduch

15:28 Take care of issues before starting shidduchim

16:19 Anxiety during engagement

19:02 Talk about marriage when dating

20:41 Spending time with each other’s families when dating

22:05 Sharing difficult topics on a date

24:00 Things we wish people knew before they got married

29:13 Have some disagreements when dating (emotional safety)

30:59 Talk about premarital education and getting support

32:19 Should someone discuss concerns with their parents

35:09 Premarital education should be standard

37:49 Topics that some daters don’t talk about

42:04 Working with a dating coach

46:58 Final thoughts

48:29 Q: Should I share about previous relationships while dating?

51:13 Wrap Up