This is deflecting.
Instead of staying with what’s being brought up, this phrase flips the focus to their behavior — dodging your own accountability.

It might feel like self-protection in the moment, but deflecting shuts down honest, connected conversation. And ultimately, the relationship.

Pause and ask yourself:
✨ What feels uncomfortable right now? ✨ What part of me wants to escape this?
✨ What am I protecting? ✨ What part of me doesn’t want to feel wrong?
✨ Can I stay present without shifting the blame?

Try this instead:
💬 “That’s hard to hear — but I want to understand.”
💬 “You’re right — I see that now.”
💬 “Let’s stay with this for a minute. I’ll share my part after.”