The phrase dismisses the other person’s experience, potentially invalidating their feelings and perceptions of what happened. In fact, this can be gaslighting, a manipulation tactic used to make someone doubt their own memories or perception of reality.

If indeed you have a different perception of the event, you can be curious about why the other person sees it or remembers the event that way.

For example, you could say, 💬 “Hmm, I have a different recollection of what happened. Tell me how you see it, and then I’ll share it from my point of view.” This approach fosters open communication and mutual understanding.