This phrase is deflective and shuts down the conversation. It dismisses the other person’s interest or concern without addressing the topic, effectively preventing further discussion. This can stifle open communication, leaving the other person feeling unheard and disregarded. When said with a sinister tone, it can come across as highly controlling.

When you feel like saying this (or something similar), it is worth reflecting on why you don’t want to have that conversation or what about what they brought up is so triggering.

If you genuinely feel that it is not in the best interest of the other person to talk about the topic, you might say, “I’m concerned that discussing this further might be upsetting. Can we approach this another time or talk about something else?” This approach is more respectful and considerate of the other person’s feelings.