Or similar: “I agree we should talk about this.”

When something triggers you, a calm and affirming response like these can help create space for a constructive conversation.

First, you are acknowledging that the topic is worth discussing. You are showing your spouse that you’re listening and open to understanding their perspective, even if it challenges your own. It also sets your mindset for a more respectful conversation.

Starting with “I agree” signals that you are on the same side and willing to engage on the topic even if your views differ. It doesn’t necessarily mean you agree with their point (yet, or ever).

Phrases like these shift the focus from disagreement to dialogue, from conflict to collaboration, creating a foundation of mutual respect to move the conversation toward resolution without escalating tension.